This Life of Special Needs Parenting has its Ups and Downs
But It’s not without it’s perks
Usually, when I have a chance to tell someone about my life, when they start to ask questions, we never have a chance to delve into what makes it worthwhile. Special needs parenting, while sometimes difficult, full of ups and downs, isn’t without its perks though.
In fact, I think having children with special needs makes me a bit more aware, a bit more sensitive, to what’s really important in life.
Our challenge this Special Saturday was in sharing our favorite things. Sometimes, as we become so used to the business of living, and we become so hardened to being special needs parents as well, we forget that there are things worth sharing, worth calling our favorites.
I’ve been lucky enough to think on this before, and I know many of you have as well. But do me a favor and stop for a moment, and really think … what is your favorite thing about being a parent? Now … if you have a child with special needs … what is your favorite thing about being that special needs parent?
Some would argue that they are one in the same. But I call BS.
If you have never mentally, prayerfully, bargained with God for your child’s next breath, next word, next smile … then you don’t understand how precious each of those truly is.
When life is a battle, a struggle, that is when you truly understand how important every little blessing is.
So … a few of my favorite things:
(forgive me if they seem basic to you, I consider each a miracle)
- Bobby’s first smile, obviously in response to something in his little world, at closer to a year than a few weeks old … a favorite memory.
- The first time Bobby said “I love you,” even though it was coached, a tear-inducing favorite.
- The first time Andy crawled, and drug his poor little head because it was too busy, was still a favorite moment in our lives.
- Andy’s first steps … it seemed like a miracle at the time … another amazing favorite.
- Logan’s first steps, past two years old and careful, stumbling, perfect – one of those very amazing and favorite kinds of moments.
- The first time Logan hugged me, little arms wrapped tight and clinging around my neck … absolutely perfect and a favorite.
Other equally important and favorite things:
- Logan’s giggle – always makes me smile and so purely enthusiastic, how could it not be a favorite?
- Bobby’s hugs? To this day a favorite not because he clings tightly, but because he forces himself, so carefully, to lean up against you and relax…even though the process is difficult for his sensitive self.
- Andy’s smile … a little lopsided and always wide across his face … absolutely breathtaking … and a favorite.
This post is about a few of my favorite things, but these are really THE things … the ones that make life worth living.
How about you?
What are a few of your favorite things, the things that don’t win awards but are equally precious and amazing.
Are you a special needs parent as well – do you find that some of your more favorite and smile-inducing moments are the ones others pass by in the course of living their lives?