Resolutions Never Work, at Least not for Me – How about You?
I’ve spent the transition to and first few weeks of this New Year sick as can be and struggling to figure out how to stay caught up with personal and work commitments as well as blogging ones. And it got me to thinking … resolutions pretty much suck.
Because resolutions are our perfect dreams, arising out of a perfect reality – when in fact our reality is just that – real. It’s not always pretty, fair, or easy.
For the past few weeks, I was sick. Barely able to truly celebrate Christmas and the New Year with my family, falling behind in my own work commitments, unable to log in and keep up with posting at the Cafe.
Being sick sucks!
If I stuck with my original ideas about New Year’s resolutions I would be feeling even worse. Like most folks I wanted to work smarter, blog more, spend more time with family, be healthier … blah blah blah.
Which is why I say resolutions suck. They don’t make us consider our reality, where we get sick, where we have kids with special needs, where a kid might have a seizure at any moment, where life happens.
And we end up feeling like failures because we. Can’t. Keep. Up with life, much less those resolutions.
Resolutions Suck, but they are Still Useful!
New Year’s resolutions suck – I’ll shout that from the rooftops – but they are a useful measure of what you most want to change about yourself. And change – that’s entirely possible no matter how sick you get, how many breakthrough seizures you are dealing with, no matter what life throws at you.
So what were your resolutions? What are the things you are most wanting to change about yourself in 2013? And, here’s the real kicker … what are you going to do to make it happen?
Resolutions are a promise to yourself that you can break as soon as life throws reality in your face. But if you have made them, broken them, thought about them at all – then you have a better idea of what you most want to change about yourself.
And THAT is valuable. Because we all want to change something about ourselves. Resolutions are a great motivator to help us think about what we want to change (lose weight, give more, post more, etc) but they are usually very subjective things – and they don’t roll with reality as well as might want.
We get sick, or one of our amazing kids with awesomeness (ie special needs) has a problem or a breakthrough seizure … and suddenly we’re back to square one and upset because we broke our all-important resolution.
Let’s Create Change instead of Resolutions
How about instead of making a resolution, so much, we take that idea and twist it around a bit. Instead of saying “I want to lose weight this year” or “I’m going to get in shape this year” how about we think about actual changes we can make?
So instead of “I want to lose weight” maybe we can say “I’m going to change the amount of fat I’m eating (or sugar … etc)”
Or, instead of “I’m going to get in shape this year” we can say “I’d like to be active 3x a week (or um, at all, if we’re not so active right now!)
Instead of generically saying we want to give more, blog more, do more, how about we give ourselves an actual goal, something we can actually change, that helps us track, measure, and realize that change?
To that end, I’d like to share a few of my own ideas for change this year …
- I will change my activity level by striving to be active every day, and work up to working out (hah!) at least 3x per week this year.
- I will increase the numbers of fruits and vegetables I bring into the home and serve; and I will increase the numbers of organic products I serve, changing our eating habits in the process.
- I will change my frequency of posting at the Cafe, with regular posting days and extra posts for special campaigns.
- I will change how often I am online and *working* so that I can spend more time with my family, focusing for shorter periods of time on completing client work.
- I will continue the Giving campaign by changing it to an ongoing initiative at the Cafe to help special needs families (very excited about this – stay tuned for more details) and to share further important and related causes and campaigns.
What about you? Hate resolutions? Love ’em? Tell me about them in the comments!